This week I received the sweetest email from a reader with a question that truly resonated with me. This reader asked for any advice on how to overcome the fear of failure that prevented her from following her dreams....some of which had been in her heart for years.
As I carefully thought about her question, my mind raced back to several moments in my history in which I took the next step ahead without truly knowing where it would lead. Specifically, I remember when I handed in my resignation letter to the principal at the school in which I was teaching and said "goodbye" to not only a fulfilling career but also to a consistent paycheck and benefits.
When planning to move cross-country, I remember that at times, failure would remain in my thoughts as I would lay in bed and not truly know what would come of the move. My mind would dance across thoughts of what I would tell my friends and family if I didn't find a job in our new state. Through this reader's question I started to realize that fear will always plague major life decisions and any moment that you decide to say "yes" to something in your heart. The unknown can feel overwhelming and if I ever truly know the answer to how you can completely overcome those fears, I promise I will pour my words into a post that I wish I could have had for reference many times before.
What I can offer now is what has always worked for me when I have been faced with the fear of failure.
Rather than play scenarios over and over again in my mind of not making it, when faced with a major decision or life-altering change, I have started to take an actionable approach to facing the unknown.
Spontaneity and pursing your dreams will more often come to fruition if you have already come up with an action plan for the scenarios our minds create that are fear-filled.
When moving to a new state, I reminded myself of my resume, my Masters degree, and my experience and realized that ultimately, I would find a new career. Furthermore, I planned out an action plan with our budget to eliminate the fear of the unknown regarding finances. Lastly, when fear would build up within my thoughts regarding what others would think of me if I "failed" I reminded myself that my family loved me dearly and even if moving to a new state wasn't what we had envisioned or even if I couldn't find a new job or way to make it work, those people who loved me would have been proud of us for trying and taking a step to pursue something that was in our hearts. After I truly mapped out these and every other scenario in which fear was whispering in my thoughts, I realized that failure really wasn't so scary after all.
If I could tell this reader and you, if you too are contemplating pursing something for which you are feeling held back by fear, it would be that you deserve for your dreams to be successes! I wish I could talk to you over a cup of coffee and cheer you on in person, but with this keyboard I hope to tell you that this world needs YOU!
There is a gift that only you can offer and there is something different that only you can share.
Facing our fears can be a journey, but trust in yourself and start tackling fears by reminding yourself of how amazing you are and making a plan!
Do you have any tips or recommendations for overcoming the fear of failure?
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