Perfection is defined as the the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects.
In our modern day society, chasing perfection can often become a trap, something we strive for, that we feel society expects. Ourselves, our bodies, our relationships, our careers; the feeling of how we think things should be.
Dear friend, I encourage you today to stop striving to chase this state. To stop falling into an unattainable trap that will undoubtably lead to feeling worn down.
This is something that has taken me some time to learn, to really grasp and further, to accept. It is so hard not to feel like we have to have everything under control 100% of the time. Something beautiful happens however, when we realize that perfection or being in control all the time is unattainable and even more so, accepting that this is completely normal and 100% okay.
If you feel like you aren't perfect, or if you ever feel self doubts, I pray you find this space and read the words below. I hope belief, belief in yourself and your abilities starts to creep in, build momentum, and remind you that you are good enough. You are perfectly imperfect, and you are not alone in the way you are feeling. We are all in this together.
1. Getting over your hill
You and only you can create the freedom to be who you are. One of my favorite songs, by Mumford and Sons has a line that yields "get over your hill and see what you find there, with grace in your heart and flowers in your hair." These words epitomize in my mind what it means to accept that there are days that we will feel like we are the master of everything and others that will feel like we have failed. The beauty is however, that on those days, the days that are tough, there is something beautiful on the other side of your hill. Remembering that obstacles are simply an uphill portion of the bigger journey that is life can help remind us that there is something better down the road. The uphill portion is temporary and what you can find afterwards is often more beautiful than we could have imagined. Those times of imperfection and challenges enable us to be stronger and embrace the times of joy.
2. Seek to be better, not perfect
If we accept that perfection is simply not attainable, what should we strive for? Instead, I encourage you to chase and seek personal growth; through productivity, personal development, learning what makes you happy, and being creative. Recently I was talking with someone close and dear to my heart and the conversation of focusing on the journey, on progress, rather than the end result came up. How difficult it is to stop and focus on the journey; even going as far as to welcome setbacks. If we learn to shift our focus and train ourselves to focus on enjoying the process, we can learn to embrace ourselves and our journey and accept that with challenges, with mistakes, comes personal growth and the opportunity to be better and learn. An opportunity to find the aspects of life that bring you the most joy, so you can remind yourself of how you felt in those moments of happiness so that even through moments that are imperfect cherished memories and feelings can remain.
3. Looking at the picture as a whole
There are ultimately no clear cut, definitive strategies to perfectly approach your work and personal life. If someone ever managed to discover this, they would be incredibly famous because, the beauty of our journey in a life of imperfection is that we are not alone. Everyone is seeking the way to find balance and what feels perfect, or right. With so many of us actively seeking this, we can take comfort in knowing that we are on this journey with many others but the gift is that you, and only you, can find what works best for you. One strategy that I have found that works for me, is that rather than compartmentalizing aspects of life; work, health and fitness, family, etc, we can look at them as part of the whole picture. These aspects are not separate entities, but rather, what makes your life and you YOU! Finding ways to integrate all of these areas into your life as one big picture, rather than balancing compartmentalized sections or striving allocate a certain amount of time to each one can mean the freedom to see how much of yourself you are pouring into the picture as a whole. It is simply impossible to be perfect in each and every single area but when we realize all we are doing and how much we are pouring into all aspects combined, we can see a harmonious blend of effort. When we are doing the best we can, that has to be enough.
From the Author
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