This week I received the sweetest email from a reader with a question that truly resonated with me. This reader asked for any advice on how to overcome the fear of failure that prevented her from following her dreams....some of which had been in her heart for years.
As I carefully thought about her question, my mind raced back to several moments in my history in which I took the next step ahead without truly knowing where it would lead. Specifically, I remember when I handed in my resignation letter to the principal at the school in which I was teaching and said "goodbye" to not only a fulfilling career but also to a consistent paycheck and benefits.
When planning to move cross-country, I remember that at times, failure would remain in my thoughts as I would lay in bed and not truly know what would come of the move. My mind would dance across thoughts of what I would tell my friends and family if I didn't find a job in our new state. Through this reader's question I started to realize that fear will always plague major life decisions and any moment that you decide to say "yes" to something in your heart. The unknown can feel overwhelming and if I ever truly know the answer to how you can completely overcome those fears, I promise I will pour my words into a post that I wish I could have had for reference many times before.
What I can offer now is what has always worked for me when I have been faced with the fear of failure.
Rather than play scenarios over and over again in my mind of not making it, when faced with a major decision or life-altering change, I have started to take an actionable approach to facing the unknown.
Spontaneity and pursing your dreams will more often come to fruition if you have already come up with an action plan for the scenarios our minds create that are fear-filled.
When moving to a new state, I reminded myself of my resume, my Masters degree, and my experience and realized that ultimately, I would find a new career. Furthermore, I planned out an action plan with our budget to eliminate the fear of the unknown regarding finances. Lastly, when fear would build up within my thoughts regarding what others would think of me if I "failed" I reminded myself that my family loved me dearly and even if moving to a new state wasn't what we had envisioned or even if I couldn't find a new job or way to make it work, those people who loved me would have been proud of us for trying and taking a step to pursue something that was in our hearts. After I truly mapped out these and every other scenario in which fear was whispering in my thoughts, I realized that failure really wasn't so scary after all.
If I could tell this reader and you, if you too are contemplating pursing something for which you are feeling held back by fear, it would be that you deserve for your dreams to be successes! I wish I could talk to you over a cup of coffee and cheer you on in person, but with this keyboard I hope to tell you that this world needs YOU!
There is a gift that only you can offer and there is something different that only you can share.
Facing our fears can be a journey, but trust in yourself and start tackling fears by reminding yourself of how amazing you are and making a plan!
Do you have any tips or recommendations for overcoming the fear of failure?
Good morning friends!
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Hello dearest reader.
This morning, I hope to encourage you with one of my favorite quotes.
I have heard several variations of this quote with references to Will Smith, Dave Ramsey, Tyler Durden, and even, well, Fight Club. In one way or another, the quote explains "We buy things we don’t need- with money we don’t have- to impress people we don’t like.”
When I first started to ponder these words, initially my mind lingered upon the "people we don't like" portion because honestly, I am the type of person who genuinely likes almost every.single.person I have ever met. This might sound a bit strange, but over the course of my life, I have strived to focus on the good that people have within their hearts when possible. I truly strive to seek that and think of them for those good things that make them who they are. While at times, people may put on a hard exterior or come across as not-so-friendly, we never truly know what someone else may be going through and therefore, I always try to give people an opportunity to shine, to have a clean slate, and to be themselves. All of this aside, when I started to think of this quote further, I started to realize that maybe it's not about people we "don't like," but rather, anyone who is not you.
When you pursue something in your life, what are the reasons or the "why" behind those actions? Does the illustration of your life reflect one of striving to nourish your body and soul or one where you are striving to impress others through seeking acceptance and approval from those around you? This can be an easy trap to fall into but today I encourage you to remember that you were created with such incredible value and you are perfect just the way you are. I pray that you realize how approved of, accepted, and loved you already are and that you allow yourself to invest in you.
Rather than feel like you have to try to fit in, impress others, or as if there are things that others may have that you do not, today, I hope that you can find joy and peace in all that you do have and peace in the notion that you are perfect exactly the way you are. May you be reminded today of all that you are capable of, of all of the people who build you up and love you and of the adventures and things you love to do.
With those things in your heart, I hope you explore, I hope you venture out of your comfort zone, I hope you seek to find what you have not yet discovered; all with exactly what you already have and with the people you love and who love you back.
Those moments of laughter, those memories that will always linger in our hearts and minds are the things we do need. That is what is truly important.
As fall starts to emerge in the distance, I have started to yearn for pumpkin spice lattes and cinnamon flavored candles.
As one season ends and another is on the brink of beginning, one of our favorite things to do has been to grill for dinner. The combination of the warmth in the evenings on our patio, dogs alongside, and enjoying being outdoors while weather permits has been refreshing and one of my favorite ways to relax and spend time together.
At our local Giant Eagle, we are fortunate to have a selection of local produce from nearby farms available for very reasonable prices. We love to scoop up the deals of the week and incorporate them into our grilled meals.
Today, I wanted to share with you just a few of my favorite vegetables that in my opinion, taste so much better charred on the grill. The best part, it takes a matter of minutes for these vegetables to taste even better after a little while over the fire. I hope you enjoy as much as we do!
1. Eggplant- simply cut an eggplant in half and place on a sheet of coconut-oiled aluminum foil. Sprinkle with a little sea salt, Italian seasoning, black pepper, and minced garlic and drizzle coconut oil on top. Fold up the foil to form a packet and grill for approximately 10-15 minutes until the edges are blackened and the eggplant is softened, almost collapsing. The smokey flavor is so incredibly delicious!
2. Bell Peppers- cut peppers lengthwise and discard stems and seeds. Coat peppers in light coating of coconut oil and add a sprinkle of sea salt and black pepper. Place peppers on aluminum foil and fold foil to form a packet. Grill for 5-10 minutes or until peppers are softened and lightly charred.
3. Asparagus- Cut the ends of off the stems and coat in a light coating of coconut oil. Place asparagus on aluminum foil and add freshly minced garlic and lemon juice. Fold foil to form a packet and grill for 10-15 minutes until asparagus have softened. Sprinkle with a little freshly grated parmesan cheese or slivered almonds and enjoy!
When you reflect inward, what are some of the achievements you are still aiming for?
Often times, we find ourselves promising ourselves that we will be better, do more, feel more, and accomplish things we feel are important. Like a new years resolution, we often take a vow that we will work towards goals as we declare all of the ways we want to improve, create opportunities for ourselves, and feel stronger.
Like many news years resolutions, the promises we make ourselves, ones we make because we know deep down they are important, can seem far away when life gets busy and at times things feel heavy.
The important thing however, is to remember that the integrity from keeping your resolutions and promises you make for yourself does not disappear when your efforts towards them slow down. What truly matters and what it truly means to honor those promises is to never let your dreams and your goals become whispers or simply words that were said long ago, neglected or lost.
While a triumph might not be on the immediate horizon or the mountain top might not be reached today, as long as you are still climbing (even if only a few steps a week) that means that you are still holding on to the dreams and goals you in your heart. Moving forward, with little victories and accomplishments (no matter how small) means that the promises you made yourself are still occupying a place in your life and the opportunity to accomplish you dreams is still in the process of being molded.
I encourage you today, to value the little victories in your life no matter how big or how small. I encourage you to never abandon your dreams or promises because you are worth the commitment. Hold onto your dreams tightly and keep moving forward.
There is a Chinese Proverb that states "The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now."
When I reflect on these words I start to realize that no matter what fears, struggles, or thoughts have prevented us from following our dreams in the past, it is never too late to detangle any false-truths and recognize that we are each incredibly unique and have the ability to offer a different voice, a different perspective through whatever passions and dreams we each may have.
No matter who you are, where you are, or how long a dream has been within your mind, I encourage you today to pursue your passions and break through your fears. Follow where your inner compass points to and one day, maybe even 20 years from now, you'll look back on the courageous moment you said "yes" and started the journey to becoming exactly who you were meant to be.
Today I want to share a secret with you: it is so incredibly easy to make your own peanut butter! This was something I never realized until I was in my 20s and when I did, I started to love the opportunity to create my own butters at home; knowing exactly what ingredients went into each and every one.
It can be fun to experiment with different options such as almonds, hazelnuts, walnuts, cashews, or peanuts to see which ones you enjoy best- or even try combinations or additional additives (like pretzels or honey) to make your peanut butter even more creative and delicious.
I hope you enjoy as much as I do!
Early September and hints of fall are on the horizon.
Leaves are starting to turn from green to orange and slowly, the temperatures are starting to cool, resulting in crisp mornings.
As the coffee starts to taste even better and pumpkin spice flavors start to make their way onto store shelves, may you find outlets of creativity and sparks that ignite both wonder and imagination in your heart.
Here are a few songs that help us feel like a new adventure is on the horizon as the season of fall emerges.
If you have been a visitor of glowwithmeraki.com, you have probably realized that I am a big advocate of pursuing the dreams and goals in your heart. I have spoken with you about moving cross country here and here. What I failed to mention in those posts however, were the aspects of moving across the country that I learned along the way. The ones I am now equipped with. How I wish so badly I could travel back in time and tell my year-younger self what I know now.
My hope in the present however, is that if you might find yourself in a similar situation, with a life altering change on your horizon, that I can comfort you in sharing what lessons I now know to be true. May you find hope and encouragement below for whatever journey you are about to embark upon and realize that you CAN so do this!
In facing the unknown, we often find our mind and hearts lingering in thoughts that can feel somewhat overwhelming. The challenge ahead may be filled with uncertainty and may appear as though it is an uphill battle.
Despite trying to stay positive to the best of my ability, I remember feelings of doubt that would start to slowly make way into my thoughts when I started to ponder and think about leaving behind the ones I loved so dearly, the process before me of attempting to find a new social circle, the thought of not knowing where I would work, and even not knowing where I would grocery shop, go to the dentist, or take our dogs to the vet.
What I didn't know however, was that those feelings of fear would translate to motivation to handle the situation at hand to the best of my ability. It is amazing how often times, we surprise ourselves by pushing through barriers and navigating challenges with strength we didn't even know we had within us all along.
If you are facing a similar journey, I hope so dearly this message reaches you. You are so very capable and you are so incredibly strong. One by one the uncertainties will slowly start to disappear and the unknown will be replaced by a new sense of familiar. The important thing is to remember that you can handle this or any other obstacle you face simple by putting one foot in front of the next and making the decision to move forward.
The feelings of being uncomfortable or immersed in uncertainties and the unknown will, overtime (even if at times it doesn't feel like it), be replaced by the gift of having stretched your boundaries, the exploration of something new, and allowing yourself to realize that you are so incredibly capable of things you didn't even realize.
Sometimes a challenge can actually be a gift. Something that enables us to grow, to learn new lessons, to realize how little possession and rather, how much the people in our lives matter. Looking back now, I wish I could tell myself, who only a year ago packed everything into a single moving van, just how grateful I would be for this challenge, this move. What you discover will ease your worry and help you realize the value of what is truly important in this world...all stemming from saying "yes" to something in your heart.
How often do we find ourselves pondering what we would do if we won the lottery or came into fortune quickly? Often times, it is easy to think about this scenario and all of the good that could come from wealth.
I truly believe though, that while wealth can certainly bring a sense of comfort and security, no amount of wealth can truly bring happiness. This belief was formed for me overtime, as I came to realize how little possessions truly matter. When we start rather, to become passionate about people; we can rebel against perceptions that often are valued as important and start to pour love, empower others, and shift hearts through hope.
I encourage you today, to strive for an organic approach to making a difference; simply by valuing those around you. You don't have to have an abundance of wealth to instill a sense of love in someone's heart and make a difference in their day. Below are three ways to inspire and spark a change as well as spread hope and encouragement to someone who might truly need it.
Honoring those around us and simply taking the time to let them know just how appreciated they are can make such an impactful difference.
With Labor Day weekend among us, we can especially focus on the American workers who have made such a difference in both the social and economic aspects of our nation. Specifically, we can focus on celebrating our nation and the hard work that both our loved ones and others have poured into our country, enabling it to be shaped into what we know it as today.
A simple way to make a difference is to simply write a thank you note to a family member who has worked hard to provide for your family, someone who has inspired you to pursue your dreams, or perhaps a veteran or service man and woman who has dedicated their life for our country. Taking the time to tell someone how much they have made a difference is something that can be incredibly meaningful and will enable you to reflect on how much hope can be found all around us.
One of my favorite ways to spread encouragement and make a difference is to simply be a helper. In our modern day society, how often we hear of disasters or troubles. Some of these may be closer to you than others but there are always ways to help.
Praying about a situation, helping to collect food or clothing for those who need them, or even listening to someone who needs to be heard can sometimes make all of the difference to someone who feels overwhelmed or is seeking encouragement.
Random Acts of Kindness
No act of kindness will ever be wasted. Whether you donate time through volunteering, write encouraging post-it notes, make a dinner and bring it to someone who is going through a difficult time, donate your hair, adopt a pet, reach out to someone who haven't talked with in a while, or simply smile and say hello to five strangers, those actions will be impactful, a gift, and a blessing in more ways than one.
From the Author
Well hello there! It is with a grateful and full heart that I welcome you to glowwithmeraki.com. On this site you will find healthy recipes, ideas, and inspiration, all created with the Meraki philosophy of leaving a piece of yourself (your soul, creativity, or love) in all you do. I truly hope that you will find inspiration from this site and stay awhile!